Each of us has ever fallen in love, but sooner or later the feeling disappeared somewhere. Why is this happening? Maybe because love does not exist, and love – just instinct, chemical processes in the body?
About love can think anything, and everyone on this account has their own opinion. But is it possible to know for sure whether there is love or is it just chemistry?
To understand this, one must first understand what we mean by the word “love”, a feeling somewhere in the soul, the spiritual closeness of the two men, a very close friendship, physical attraction, desire, arousal, or something else? And love can be – it’s all together and if something is not one, then, and no love? Perhaps this is so.
But if you think about it, really, to be in love and spiritual closeness and mutual understanding, and respect, and friendship should be, because if not, then people with each other just not interested. And if there is no interest in each other, as individuals, then what kind of intimacy? So in love should be and friendship, and understanding, and trust, as well as attraction, physical attraction, because it is impossible to get a true pleasure without the enjoyment of beauty.
Love – is a delight in every way!
But pleasure – this is what we get. And in order to get something, and we must be able to give something back. Maybe the problem is in this love that no one seriously thinks that we must be able to give, not just receive? While in love should be able to give selflessly, otherwise it is not love. A man in love is capable of much, to exploit, to madness, to any adventure – it’s a sign that love is self-sufficient and does not need to give her something, she is able to give! Therefore, the relationship of the two lovers always start very well, both full of energy and enthusiasm, ready to do for each other everything, and devote themselves to take care of their spouse.
But time passes, and the enthusiasm slowly dissipates, and in its place come discontent, resentment and blame. It was then that arouse suspicion about the existence of love. But perhaps this is not in it, and the people themselves, who simply do not know how to love? Yes, we must be able to love.
Every person initially has all the feelings and emotions, the ability to experience them. On how a person is brought up, which has the character, outlook, concepts, strong will, intelligence, depends on his personal ability to feel, to react.
Think about what love can not be combined? Love is incompatible with resentment, aggression, with cruelty, with selfishness, with arrogance, with stubbornness, with all the negative feelings, emotions and qualities. When a person shows negative feelings and quality, thus killing his same love. And then wonder where it go? While not rare blaming your partner that he or she is guilty of corrupt relationships. But how do people wrong about it!
Love – it means to forgive, to be able to endure, to wait, to be able to give generously, care for and do not require anything in return. But it’s so hard! Once a person does something good, then immediately waits for it is something that will follow. From the good-but what good do not wait! And when this happens, or is not what I expected, that pride began to whisper, “he (or she) will sit down your neck, do not let this, Cry worthy to be treated!”. And as soon as people start to succumb to such tricks ego, relationships begin to deteriorate rapidly.
But how can you do otherwise, as the yield is always give and get nothing in return? Who might need such a relationship in which you begin to feel as though you are using? But that’s the whole point! The idea that you sit on the neck that you do not appreciate, do not give a vat of what you, in your opinion, are worthy of love and murder. It all depends on your view of the situation, how do you assess it, determine. Otherwise you can look at what is happening and make a different idea of how to shape and develop the relationship, what is correct and that the relationship is good. It all depends on perspective.
Relationships can be built only by working on them, investing in them their efforts by raising and developing their awareness, will power. If this is done together with his half, together to discuss their behavior and attitude to each other, to plan for the future, you can create a very trusting and close relationships, achieve an unprecedented understanding and thus keep your love!